Does Rewarding Our Children For Doing Chores Teach Them Good Values?

'Why should I reward my child for doing what she is supposed to do?'

'They have a roof over their heads, and I feed them, that is their reward'

'I bribe because I honestly do not have the strength to fight with them. I need the job done'

'This teaches kids to bribe when they are older, I say NO!'

'What kind of parenting is that?'

'It teaches them to bargain I think, they become wiser when they grow up'

'My mother tried it with us, and we ended up taking her for a ride. She stopped that very fast!'

You are privileged to do chores...you get food , a roof over your head and clothes on your back..ok..I will cut you some slack... Have some ma freezit


 I think paying them to help out might teach them about earning but I think it's more valuable to teach them that helping one another makes a happy home/ heart, so the weight is not on one individual and that service to others is so much better than only helping out if u gain money or rewards , our job is to teach our children as young as possible empathy, kindness ,respect, love and service to others and that to give without expectation leaves u feeling full , the concept of working hard for your money will be something they learn from the example watching thier parents they see how hard you work , and they too will do the same

 My mom used to do that to my brother and me. With age we started becoming entitled. She had to stop the payments and put the fear of God into our hearts for us to do our chores without grumbling

 I reward them by letting them stay under my roof for free! And I remind them daily, lest they become entitled.. Chores are how they pay for their school fees.. (I'm pretty sure they'll put me in a retirement home when I'm old 🤣🤣🤣)

 Reward ain’t about money 💰 only

 I think for basics like making their bed no but for ironing or taxing work teaches them that hard work leads to profit

My personal choice would be not to give monetary reward. I'm planning on converting it into time saved.. "free time if you will. Minutes towards screen time, play time etc

 I think it teaches them good values - you have to work for what you want. I don’t however think it needs to always be a monetary amount. We have a stamp system. He accumulates enough stamps he gets to have/do something within a set budget. We also do the tidy up all your toys then you can have tv time. If he really wants to watch tv he does it😜

 I think chores in the home should be standard. But maybe put them in categories. Washing dishes, cleaning your room, making your bed... should be standard. No payment. Washing the car, pay the kids. As much as you want them to learn about value of work and money you still want them to learn general respect and responsibility in the house so when they live alone they maintain a recently clean house


Mmmm reward? I don’t reward them with money, I think it’s important for them to learn that sometimes one just has to grind because that’s how stuff gets done. You don’t always get a monetary reward for your grind




These are some of the responses we got when I shared it  on my Facebook page and when we talked about it on the show. Its interesting to see how different we all are, how we parent differently, which makes the world and interesting place.

I personally feel rewarding in whatever way is not good. I reward for school performance, and I encourage and praise when they do chores around the house. It is important to let kids know they are doing well and they have done a good job. Making a bed at a young age isn't easy, but imagine how happy your child will be when you tell them they have done a good job and they are getting better at it. It will push them to want to keep doing it I believe.

We all do what works for us and our kids, let's make sure we do what works positively for our kids in the long run

Till Next Monday

Stay Blessed


Tafi

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