So many children of all ages from 8 years going up, are busy during the holidays going for extra lessons. If your child is not going for anything, it seems as if you are a bad mom. Is that really the case?
I think the most important point I have to mention first is that each child (even from the same family) learns differently, and at their own pace. We cannot compare our children because we will be comparing apples and oranges. So if a parent takes their child for extra lessons, it does not mean that your child must go too
Secondly, parents take their children to extra lessons for different reasons:
- to just keep their knowledge fresh for certain subjects
- to become number 1 instead of number 2
- to polish up on certain concepts
- because they need extra attention on certain subjects
- the teacher has recommended it for the child to keep up
- to keep the child busy during the holiday
It may not always mean that your child is failing to understand a certain subject, it could just mean the parent wants their child to excel. That kind of pressure on a child is a topic we have discussed before and I shared my thoughts on it.
With exams coming up, you may find some children panic under pressure. For some children, preparing over a longer period improves their performance, and keeps them calm, so revision/extra lessons may help. It is all about knowing your child's ability and learning skills.
How much time before the exams should your child start learning? It all depends on your child. I remember a friend of mine who would forget what she read if she studied two weeks before an exam, someone else would forget a month before, and some a day before. It is important to communicate and understand from your child what they need.
It really doesn't hurt to take your child for extra lessons, but if you do, take them for the right reasons, ensure they are learning something, and try and find a place/tutor that makes them enjoy learning and want to come back.
Short topic, but it has some strong points.
Till Next Monday
Stay Blessed
Tafi
#beingaparent
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