So I am feeling the stress even though my child is still in primary. Im feeling pressure to make sure she remembers everything and I fear I am going to put pressure on her to read whenever she has free time! This is the problem with us perfectionist moms, we just want the best and thus push these poor children to be the best. With this show, I am also learning and also catching myself when I realise I am pushing my child for my own selfish needs and not embracing her for who she is and accepting her abilities.
What we all want is for our children to do the best they can and to be the best in their own abilities. Exams however make most of us panic and lose our minds and want to push our children. We forget our child's strengths and weaknesses and now expect them to just excel in it all...being a child at this time of the year is not fun I am sure...lol
So here are some points that I think could help; some of the points may be late for this year, but you can apply them next year:
1. Be calm as the parent. If you panic, your child will panic.
2. Understand your child's style of learning. I have a photographic memory, my sister has a logical way of learning, she has to understand processes and methods to understand. I have a friend who reads two days before an exam, otherwise she forgets if she reads any earlier. Others require pictures or practical examples to remember a concept. These are a few ways of how people learn, therefore to be effective, you need to know how your child learns and remembers.
3. Create a regular routine for your child to revise their work throughout the year. It all depends with your child's strengths and needs, but the idea is for your child to get used to a routine of revision, and this will reduce the pressure during exam time to cram.
4. Do not make your child cram! It has no long term benefit
4. Try and include some of what they learn in their every day activities. For example, if they are learning about money, when you go to the store, you can make your child work out how much is needed and how much change they should expect. In the car you can have your child create a story with what she sees in the car or outside, this will stimulate their creative mind. You could also make them tell their siblings a bed time story that they create. Role play some of the subjects like history, or environmental science. Some subjects are practical and you can make your child remember by doing some practical work.
5. Do not revise the morning of the exam. Your child will just panic if they do not know the answer. Some children like to be tested the morning of the exam, and others cannot. Again it all depends on the child.
6. Rewarding for success can motivate or give the child a false idea of success. Your child may pass to just receive the reward, but will not have learnt anything. Push your child to understand the subject more than to win the reward.
It is never to early to get your child ready for exams. Exams in primary school may not be as serious, but making your children prepare for exams seriously, will prepare them for high school. ROUTINE!! ROUTINE!! ROUTINE!! It is important! I have to emphasise it again
I hope some of these points help. Make learning at home fun!
Wishing you all the best for you and your children this exam time!!
Till Next Monday
Stay Blessed
Tafi
#beingaparent
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